Smartphone – Bridging Generational Gaps

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Author – Shubhi Dixit

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Remember the time when there was just one transistor for the whole village and people gathered around it during cricket matches and news hours for infotainment… The time when people rushed to send a telegram to urgently give good or bad news… And the time when friends and relatives living abroad seemed so distant because contacting them was a herculean task… Things have changed so much since then. Communication has taken vast strides and has spread its wings to surmount all the hurdles that tied it down in the past.

However, the prevalent trend shows that only Generation Y and Generation Z have connected well with the technological advancements. A large mass of people is still nonchalant towards the new trending discoveries. Hence we often find gaps in the generational perspectives. I witnessed a similar situation when my father’s archaic cell phone finally became non-functional.

“All I need is a phone that allows me receive and make calls.”- is what my father stated as his requirement. I thought the generation behind us seemed quite reluctant to embrace the new technology of smartphones. They also despise the fact that the youngsters are always so involved in their phones. And no amount of explanation convinces them that it’s not just games and messaging that keep people glued to their phones!

Recently, I got my parents a Smartphone to make the situation a little smooth and to introduce my parents to modern amenities. There were vociferous protests accompanied by ideas on how that money could have been put to better use. But this time I was determined, the phone was there and so were my efforts to teach them how to make their lives more comfortable.

My efforts started with my dad. Being a physician practicing in a small village in central India found a plethora of potential in his new phone. I introduced him to the WebMD mobile app, which helped him to sit in his dispensary and watch the new companies launch the advanced version of a medical drug he had been referring to his patients. When he had to go receive my uncle at the station, he would just sit at home and enquire the current train status through an app, thus saving his time and efforts in waiting at the railway station. He clicked pictures of the places he viewed and meals he ate and sent them on the family group through Whatsapp instant messaging application and thus none of us felt left out.

However, for my mother, it was like teaching a child to ride a bike. Every time she held the new expensive, shiny device in her hand, she felt that the touch-screen would get scratched or too much tapping would spoil the phone. But she too soon got the hang of it. She was listening to an old song and couldn’t remember its exact name. Through Shazam, the song recognition app, she was able to not only see the name of the film, artist and the recording studio but also the lyrics of the song. That’s when my mom seriously became a fan. She started searching for cookery videos, motivational speeches and short stories and the social media gave her a glimpse of her children everyday, which was such a pleasant feeling for her living so far away from her children.

The epic performance of this magical device happened when my pregnant sister went for her USG (sonogram) in Canada and my parents, who were sitting in their cozy drawing room without electricity in a small village in India, could see the live streaming of the foetus on their phone. It brought them tears of joy as they heard the doctor point out the head, hands and feet of their healthy grandchild. They soon took pride in showing off how they are so well versed with the latest trends and utilized the phone in ways better than I had ever expected them to.

Even though there are endless debates on how technology is replacing our old ways and people do not have time for each other, I saw the contrary happening in my rural home. The question now is, how difficult is it for the yesteryear generation to get accustomed to the ways of the present ones? Technology, sometimes brings gaps between families and family members, but there are many cases like my family’s where it has served as a unifying factor for bridging generational gaps and if anything, has made lives simpler.

Do We Worship Saraswati the Way We do Lakshmi?

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“Yaa Devi Sarva Bhuteshu, Vidya Rupena Samsthitha
Yaa Devi Sarva Bhuteshu, Gyaana Rupena Samsthitha”

“To that divine power, who abides in the form of Education and Knowledge.” Those are the words written on a framed picture of Goddess Saraswati, which was awarded to me for my sloka recitation sessions in my sixth grade. Although my religious beliefs have evolved over the years, the picture still remains hanging on the wall of my room. Maybe it is the love and respect for education that my parents and teachers instilled in me at a tender age, or some sort of emotional attachment that I have for this peculiar yet special prize.

So, Saraswati (Saraswathi or Sarasvati), the goddess of knowledge and education has always held a special place in my heart. Unfortunately, it might just not be the same with many other people. Her importance seems to depreciate when compared to that of another divine power, Lakshmi – the goddess of wealth. Although Saraswati and Lakshmi are two among the several manifestations of Adi Shakti (The Supreme Being/Divine Mother), the latter has been stealing a lot of limelight lately.

My grandmother always said, “Pursue Saraswati, and Lakshmi will naturally come your life.” So I did, all my life. I inculcated an undying appetite for learning new things and seeking knowledge in everyplace I went and everything I did. However, sadly the scenario has changed today; in the hungry chase of the materialistic wealth, the goddess of knowledge has been left behind in this hypocritical society.

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In ancient days, acquiring good education was extremely hard and considered fortunate. A man had to be lucky to get a Guru to impart wisdom and knowledge in their lives. Women were often deprived of any education. Remember the story of Mahabharatha about Karna hiding his low caste from his Brahmin guru in order to convince him to impart knowledge…

Such was the importance given to the art of learning. However, with the changing times, there was a radical shift in the priorities and all it matters now is the green notes that we need to take forward the vehicle of life. Survival of the fittest, as they say, now needs money more than anything.

So, in this age of speed and greed, Lakshmi has overpowered her co-manifestation in an unlikely race. A visit to Goddess Saraswati is now just confined to initiation of ‘Aksharabhyasam’ for little kids or perhaps, during the time of competitive exams. What’s worse is that these days, Saraswati can be bought with the help of Lakshmi! I mean, look at all the mad rush for admissions in corporate schools and the management quota seats in colleges that can be acquired with stacks of money. Education now, can be achieved through money power. However, one can never fathom the true essence of knowledge, if there’s no interest and deference towards learning.

Maybe what I was imparted with during my childhood was a piece of wisdom passed on to me by my grandma. I need to say this because, there are many thoughts countering this statement about the association of Saraswati and Lakshmi. Many say Lakshmi and Saraswati are rivals, who do not wish to be in the same place at a time. Yes, many successful personalities and business tycoons are not highly educated. But people fail to observe that those achievers had immense skill and talent in their chosen field, which again turns out to be Saraswati.

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Whenever someone acquires wealth through luck, say for example, a lottery or inheritance, Goddess Lakshmi is praised. This may be probably the only situation where Lakshmi comes without Saraswati. They take this one piece of argument and form a conclusion that both these divine powers cannot dwell together. What people don’t understand is that a fool and his money are soon parted!

There’s an ancient Indian aphorism that says “when we are at our worst, Saraswati stays with us while Lakshmi disappears”. It could be our pride of having wealth, or may be our negligence that we do not give importance to wise decisions in life; and they lead to our destruction.

No matter how many points we raise in an argument, it is an undeniable truth that we do not worship Saraswati the way we do Lakshmi in our lives. Look around for the numerous shrines in our houses, temples with golden gopuras and thousands of prayers during different festivals and one day devoted to her every single week.

If our country has to become a knowledge oriented society, we respect as much as we do Lakshmi. It need not be worshipping in the form of a deity, but acknowledging her manifestation in our lives in the form of knowledge, wisdom, intelligence, skills and consciousness. I believe, it is when Saraswati is truly admired, Lakshmi shines in our lives!

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Top 10 Indian Children Movies You Must Watch

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Nowadays the theme considered in the movie has widened its outlook. The film maker just don’t want entertainment to give to the viewers, but much beyond that. They want a theme in the movie that would make the viewer say in excitement that ‘Yes, this is it!’. This is worth watching with family, that will generally widens the child perspective. The child will not just entertained him in those 3 hours of movie, but also be inspired by the movie and he would hence try to have new move in his life. Cinema has a huge impact on people and children. We try to imitate what is portrayed in the reel life in our real life.

Here, is the list of 10 Indian Children Movies that led to a bigger social impact on every child ‘s mind.

1. Taare Zameen Par

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Taare Zameen Par is a great movie, seriously an inspiring slot. This is the kind of movie that can be view by everyone, regardless of the age.

The movie beautifully captures the life of a young boy ‘Ishaan’, a dyslexia child. He was great strugglers in his life. The movie has portrayed a beautiful lesson to everyone that every child  is different and have different needs in this world.

2. Udaan

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The movie portrays a story of thousands of youth from Indian middle class families, who desire to break free and follow their dreams passionately. The film was selected in the Film festival in the year 2010 to compete in the UN Regard. It was the first Indian film to be selected in Cannes.

3. The Blue Umbrella

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The Blue Umbrella is based on an Indian novel by Ruskin Bond. This is the great movie to watch, directed by Vishal Bhardwaj. This movie will surely teach a kid that even a villain doesn’t deserve cruelty or judgement in life.

4. Anjali

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A beautiful story of a two year old mentally disabled ill girl, who has been kept away from her mother. The film was directed by Mani Ratnam, in the movie a couple is portrayed who has a third child who is mentally ill. She is on a verge of dying, and how her family cope up in this unwanted trauma is depicted hard in this movie.

5. I Am Kalam

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I Am Kalam is a must watch movie!

This is a peculiar, but an inspiring film indeed. The film depicts a story of a Rajasthani boy who looks up to President Kalam and finds the courage to follow his dreams passionately. Seriously, a heartwarming story.

6. Bum Bum Bole

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Bum bum bole is an official adaptation of the famous award winning Iranian film ‘ Children Of Heavens’.  This is the story of a 12 year old  who was forced to grow up before his time because of the severe bad time of his family.

7. Chillar Party

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The most entertaining movie till date for every children all over India. This is the kind of movie that can be watched with the full family. The movie is all about the young children who fought for their own rights in their own justified ways.

8. Stanley Ka Dabba

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Stanley Ka Dabba is an entertaining piece of slot, a 4th grade student is forced to bring tiffin by his Hindi teacher and how he spend his time in school with all the difficulties is depicted very well in this movie. The school time can be  remembered very well through this amazing piece of work.

9. Koi Mil Gyaa

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Koi Mil Gyaa is the first Sci-Fi thriller movie, that displayed a boy and his friends who helped an alien and sent him back to his world. Quite, an interesting movie to watch.

10. Makdee

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The story is about two sisters, Chunni and Munni who is trapped by an evil witch of the village. The witch make them do difficult tasks in order to release them. This is an adventurous as well as an entertaining movie to watch by everyone.

Does Violence in Films Influence Society?

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Author – Pravleen Chugh

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Being a filmmaker, I love movies. I end up watching three to four films a week. Analysing them has always been fun for me. This includes understanding the characters, breaking down the plot and studying the camera. This sort of analysis often raises questions in me, and an important one that I always ponder has been regarding violence in cinema, which is- “does violence in films influence society?”

Violence has been an integral part of cinema right from its inception, and Bollywood has not shied away from it. It has been proud to have action films like Sholay, Don, Ghajini, Satya, and Vaastav.  In fact, not only has violence been a key ingredient for hundreds of Indian films, but it has also been romanticized.  Violence acted out by the protagonist is often a sign of strength and courage, something to feel proud about. Whereas a character unwilling to partake in violence is looked at as effeminate and cowardly.

Heroes are often required to kill to win their lovers and many a times their violent behaviour is cheered on by their otherwise docile counterparts.

Such acceptance of violence in films is largely left unquestioned. Why do Indian audiences accept murder and physical brutality in cinema over the depiction of loving homosexual relationships? Why is there a warning sign every time someone lights a cigarette and not when someone picks up a gun? Is it better to blow up cars and cities than to kiss someone you want to spend the rest of your life with?

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With violence being one of the biggest forms of entertainment, can it in anyway influence people in real life? A lot of people would say no. Millions of people watch aggressive films, but not everyone goes out committing crimes and causing disruption after.
However, if films can influence other aspects of our lives like what we wear, what kind of hairstyle we get, what brands of gadgets we use, where we holiday and even how we approach potentials love interests; then why not violence?

We don’t see cars exploding on the streets like they do in Rohit Shetty films. So it is obvious that violence in films is exaggerated, just like everything else. People don’t break into song and dance after seeing a film, the same way no sane person will go out and kill someone after watching a murder on screen. But does the answer to the question end just here?

Although there may not be much evidence to prove that violence in films influences people’s behaviour, there are studies that suggest that it does have some short-term effects. Researchers suggest they might enhance aggression but only among people prone to it. Movies may also offer ideas on ways to kill or be violent for such people.

Dhoom, released in 2004, a film about a group of bikers that burgle banks and other public places inspired a group of bikers in Kerala to rob a bank in 2007. The group stole gold and cash worth lakhs of rupees. However, this isn’t new. The 1972 film starring Amitabh Bachchan, Bombay to Goa, inspired three working professionals to break into a safe in a warehouse. They admitted that they saw the film for reference.

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There are also findings that suggest watching sexually aggressive films negatively influence the viewer’s attitude towards women.

All this is concerning especially when it comes to children. Children often like to imitate what they see on television and in films. They cannot differentiate between fact and fiction until the age of four. This might lead them to view violence as an ordinary occurrence, affecting their sense of compassion.

The justification of violence and its representation as something “cool” may also influence adolescents to act out in order to impress their peers. Violence in Bollywood has risen so much in the last few decades, that Crores of Rupees are pumped in every year to stylise and carelessly display destruction, cruelty and gore.

Film lover Bharat Mordani says, “Bollywood is backward in several ways. When it comes to violence its consequences are hardly ever shown. Actors just want to flex their muscles and be ultra macho”. It is true that violence has existed long before movies, but its glorification can be a risk factor. For someone who is innately aggressive or vulnerable promoting violence can be a big problem.

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Ban La Tomatina, Ban Jallikattu?

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Author – Levine Lawrence

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In an effort to liven up our boring lives, Google has doodled on the 70th anniversary of ‘La Tomatina’, the infamous annual tomato-throwing festival in Spain. Remember the protagonists of the Bollywood movie Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara having fun in Spain… yes, that strange yet quaint ritual of a tiny town named Bunol in Spain, where people gather in the town square and start throwing ripe tomatoes at each other. And then they get messy and romantic, and they kiss each other and clean up!

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I remember after the movie’s success in 2011, there were copycat event managers in India who wanted to organise a similar La Tomatina event in Bangalore and Mysore. Immediately our ever-active NGOs complained about it and over-zealous government swung into action to ban any such gross wastage of tomatoes. It was interesting that a right-wing BJP government in Karnataka took immediate action not only to prevent wastage of tomatoes, but also to shun such ugly imitation of the foreign culture.

While there is no disputing the fact that such an event would have been a sheer wastage of valuable food, which must be utilised for better purposes, there are so many other gross displays of wastage in India such as food wasted in marriage halls, water wastage due to overflowing tanks, rotting foodgrains in FCI godowns, etc. Our government and our beloved intellectuals are oblivious of the fact that tomato farmers in Karnataka were once prone to throw away their produce on streets as a mark of protest. In fact, I remember covering such a tomato throwing protest in front of Vidhana Soudha in Bengaluru!

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I really don’t understand why our society demands for banning everything. Our government sole purpose of existence seems to be abolishing all evils from our society. Remember Jallikattu… that strange and innocent bull-taming festival in Tamilnadu… Well-bred bulls are made angry and let loose onto the village roads, which are lined crazed up people, who are eager to latch onto the animal and hold it down. The daredevils who hold down the bull win prizes offered by the community. The dumb daredevils who couldn’t hold on, get trampled by the fierce bull and may even get killed!

Last year, the Supreme Court ruled that this strange yet traditional sport be banned. Animal lovers across the nation rejoiced. But I am actually at a loss to know how this sport is cruel to the animal! The bull actually tramples down humans and injures them right? Further how can our hyper-smart government enforce this ban on Jallikattu, which is traditionally practiced across many villages in Tamil Nadu?

When will we ever understand that banning a particular act creates a bigger thrill for the person who violates it… Now comes the latest… the central government is considering steps to amend laws to allow Jallikattu!

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The Last Sunshine: A Farewell to College Life

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Author – Biswadeep Ghosh Hazra

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The wind kissed my face sternly for one last time as if to bid me the final farewell. I am surrounded by my friends sitting atop a platform on the roof of our beloved hostel. Four years ago, I was terrified of this insipid place and yet today, I am here, wishing if time could be slowed down to a null. Sighing, I smile on my wicked fate; four years seemed like four days now. My sighs were soon suppressed by the incessant laughter of my friends surrounding me, giving way to the occasional clinking of beer bottles and cigarette smoke. We were intoxicated, or to say in a simple colloquial term, ‘high’. Sitting at this point made us all reminisce about the way we dodged hostilities, fell into the deepest abyss called love, passed our semesters with the utmost difficulty, woke up with bad hangovers, and cooked and ate delicious food with a hunger insatiable like the devil’s. Everything led us up to this day; for come tomorrow, we will ‘pass-out’ from this college into a strange oblivion called ‘life’. Being last in almost everything was a forced habit during these years in my hostel and college life alike; going home was not going to be any different. I had seen several of my friends depart, their crying faces invoking deep sympathy within me. No amount of intoxication, or any activity for that matter could assuage the pain associated, and the handful of us remaining would have to meet the same fate someday or the other.

Our four years at Haldia Institute of Technology, Haldia, West Bengal were up. Though my friends and I belonged from different departments, we were united by our souls.  Staying in the hostel for all this time had its effect as well. We were connected by an invisible thread. All those study sessions during the examinations and practicals, the tension during campusing, the joy when one of us was lucky enough to secure a job- everything was larger than life itself.

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On occasions, we even risked our lives and fled away from hostel to go out (for the sake of having an adventure and to eat!) and enjoy without a care in the world. Such is the beauty of hostel life!

The sun slowly made its way up the horizon, illuminating our faces and maybe our lives as well. This was our last sunshine in college.

“The sun is in all its glory, this is utterly beautiful. isn’t it? Looks like Surya-dev is riding his chariot with seven horses in resplendent glory,” said one of my friends staring in amazement. Alcohol turns everyone into philosophers. Nevertheless, I couldn’t agree any less with him.

“Four years! And this sight has never gotten any older. It still amazes us all,” I answered supporting him.

“Gosh, I will miss you all, very badly” another one almost cried out aloud.

Complementary hugs and handshakes were exchanged; our friends can make any journey virtually un-noticeable.

After our last huddle-up, I went back to my room; there was a lot of work still left to do. My parents were coming to receive me and relieve me from my college and hostel life; I had to clean the room to the best of my abilities. The bags, trunks and suitcases were laid open in front of me, as if they were opening themselves to me and had nothing to hide. On the dusty floor, they lay, barren and naked. I had never changed my room in these four years, though we were free to do so. The reason being my affinity towards the same. I looked around my room and memories came flooding in. I lay on my bed for a while, basking in the sunlight and reminiscence at the same time.

I had fallen asleep after the previous night’s tryst and was woken up by the familiar ringing of my phone. Flashing on the screen was my father’s number. My parents came shortly after that, with a smile on their faces. A shroud of desperation and sadness encapsulated me as I walked towards the college building for completing some formalities. Soon, I would not be a part of this college, but the college would be a part of my life.

As the car sped away, I grabbed my shades from my mother to hide my tears from my parents. I refused to see any of my beloved juniors, as I was not good with ‘farewells’ and ‘goodbyes’. However, I miss them from the bottom of my heart.

This article is submitted as a part of Nostalgic Article of the Month contest

Rain: A Pluviophile’s Painkiller

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Author – Ruchi Rai

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It’s divided into two different eras of my life- my memories in and with rain. The first are the nonchalant days from the extreme past which I refer to as “Before Growing Up” period, and the second is the “After Growing Up” period when my whole perception as a pluviophile changed for the good.

My memories during the “Before Growing Up” period are simple and colorful like every other kid’s. Rain was the excuse to mount my grandfather’s shoulder on my way back home from school. When I grew up a little, rain was the cause of my struggle for fitting into my pink raincoat with a school on the back. The most difficult problem, I tell you, was walking home in wet socks and water-filled shoes.

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I, being a pluviophile since childhood, fantasized about getting drenched in the rain; however, all I did was try to navigate the paper boats that never sailed. Running in the rain across the lawn forcing my paper boat to move was so much of an adventure back then.

That little dance in the rain with my sister when we were finally allowed to get drenched and act like kids in the movies, jumping and splashing water was so much fun. And those small walks in the rain, when I did not take my umbrella out, was so much of an adult thing to do in teens.

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In those days, rain was all about the thrill, fun, entertainment, unexpected holidays, pakodas, Maggi noodles and Horlicks. But, life is all about the changes. You might stand in the same place on the same day at the same time the following year, yet everything would be changed. Some changes are so intangible that you can’t even see but only feel them, with all of your heart. I walk on the same pavement where I first got drenched, but the feel is completely different now. The buildings are the same and the people are also the same, with some signs of aging.  But I have changed, completely.

rain 2Rain is just a part of the year and is the most unexpected visitor of all the seasonal changes, yet it has managed to keep up with me during both good and bad days. It has always been kind to me, and I developed a special bond with it during the interlude between ‘Before Growing Up’ and ‘After Growing Up’ phases. The days when the void was cutting deep through my windpipe making it hard to breathe in pain, it was the sound of the rain, which became a lullaby and put me to sleep after crying silently for hours. The rain did to me what it does to fields after drought. It soothed me on the inside when I was fighting my toughest battles. Like the dust settles down after rain, my pain settled down during the last monsoon. I owe this solace to the rain.

Now, when I believe that I have grown up enough, the petrichor plucks the string of my heart that plays the memories from the past and reminds me of those old days. There’s some kind of crazy fondness for rain as I still feel the titillation when I smell and listen to the rain. Life is a little greener when it rains with all the drenched trees and hills, glistening wet roads reflecting lights from cars, and a pleasant petrichor.

That romantic walk in the drizzle with someone special.
That long drive on the highways with my favorite kind of music.
That tiny droplets sliding on the window panes of cars.
That brighter look of my city drenched completely in the rain.
Rain has unleashed the writer in me; it was my desire to express these feelings for rain that made me hold the pen. Its beauty made me an amateur photographer trying to capture how I see rain through my lenses.

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Rain is what I consider to be the creative side of God. It is God’s way of sympathizing with people who are fighting a battle inside, and his way of filling colors to its creation once in a while.

I wrap up my love for rain with the hope that it will continue to be kind, as it has always been to me, and to everyone so that nobody loses their loved ones and possessions in floods. While I sleep peacefully listening to the rain, somewhere someone is awake praying for it to stop.

This article is submitted as a part of Nostalgic Article of the Month contest

Indian Marriage – A serious act. Nothing funny!

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Author – Sindhura Saradhi

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The present generation of young people, boasting to be the most advanced human beings with a high-level of thought process, are failing to understand the importance of marriage. No wonder, they are finding rituals and traditions funny and boring. This attitude of theirs seems to arise from hyper-addiction to social media and the internet. People, living in a virtual world with no customs, rituals or other restrictions on a proper lifestyle, are those who can’t make real friends, can’t be involved with real people and understand real life!

In today’s generation, people who are not ready to take up the responsibility of valuing familial relationships in life, are the ones who make fun of marriage, its traditions and customs.

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I can strongly say that anybody in this world would need guts to enter a relationship called ‘Marriage’. Marriage is not a bed of roses; it is a blend of several emotions that any person doesn’t even know existed, prior to getting married. Marriage is a process of falling in love once again when the couple meet each other on the day of the wedding, and then again and again, each day for the rest of their lives. Marriage is no fun, and getting married is not either.

Marriage is not just for two people, but two families, a bunch of relatives, and all those who want to see the couple happy with their relationship. Relatives and friends do not attend a wedding to please someone, boast about their properties and jewellery or have good food; instead, they arrive to bless the couple.

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We need to remember that each blessing counts. This is no superstition. It is pure science. When a gathering of people radiate high levels of positive energy in a wedding through positive thoughts, happy faces, and pure blessings, it creates a great level of positivity in the newly formed relationship. The simple logic here is that a smile is contagious, and so is happiness. That is why, we always see cheerful environment with smiling faces everywhere in the weddings. In real sense, we don’t see a crying couple or a sulking attendee in a wedding.

Women in their best attire, men in their best behaviour, and the couple looking more beautiful than usual – all these happen in real world, and not in virtual world. In real world, people understand that such gatherings do result in a refreshed mind; since there is no better anti-depressant than being happy and meeting with people we really love. Gatherings such as weddings, birthday parties or any other social get-togethers happen for a reason. Good food is just another part of such occasions, which can only lift the mood.

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On the other hand, in case of south Indian marriages, all that glitters is absolutely gold. Here, the guests are received with great respect. To be more specific, the food that is served in the wedding is a symbol of utmost respect towards the guests who attend the ceremony to shower pure love and blessings to the new couple. This is why the bride’s father, who hosts the wedding, ensures that no guest leaves with an empty stomach. There seems to be nothing funny in trying to be a good host!

Besides, our traditions clearly state that a daughter is nothing less than a son; hence, she has every right to take a part of the family’s property. The bride’s father wholeheartedly washes the feet of his son-in-law with holy water while giving away his daughter, along with some amount of money to start their new life. This is not funny either!

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This custom may have been misused by some money-minded people, but the fact that it indicates a father’s responsibility towards his daughter’s new life cannot be denied. Showering the bride’s new family with gifts, and the bride with gold and saris, or anything that makes her happy is a way of telling her that a father is never an outsider. He will always be there for her even if she gets married and enters a new family.

Nothing is funny or boring in these traditions. Each of these customs has been designed like a set of diamonds in a beautiful gold necklace. Even if one diamond is missing, the necklace will lose its attraction. This is what happens when we fail to respect any single tradition or custom in the Indian marriage. After all, getting married is not tying the knot with one person; it needs two families with mutual love, respect and acceptance.

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Marriage is not fun, and love is not either. Be it arranged or a love marriage, if we do not find any value in our country’s traditions, there is no way we can respect ourselves!

Famous Short Story Writers – Part 2

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Author – Neeraja Sundar

Famous Short Story Writers – Part 1

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The last time, we reminisced about the most famous Short Story writers in India like Rabindranath Tagore, Ruskin Bond and R.K. Narayan, who had penned down beautiful tales that still remain in our hearts. But, there are several other great short story writers from across the world, without whom the list is incomplete. Together they present a cornucopia of wit, intelligence, dry humour and poignancy. The greatness of their writings lies the fact that they present the crux of life within a few pages and in a delightful manner. Like I mentioned, my grandfather introduced me to classics quite early. My teacher in 4th standard brought the classes to life with her charming story-telling skills. Getting into the habit of reading books should be inherited or cultivated. Fortunately, I had both.

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Creator of the world’s best detective, Doyle occupies the all-time favourite writer in my list accompanied by R K Narayan. When everybody raved about the sit-com Sherlock, I was probably one among the few who couldn’t appreciate it. The characters, plots, twists and the brilliance of Doyle’s Holmes are simply inimitable. Irene Adler was also not ideally portrayed in the movie and television versions.

I have often speculated on Doyle’s intelligence. If his creation was that great, then imagine the mind of the creator. Holmes was that popular with the readers including the Queen. When Doyle, frustrated with Holmes, killed him in The Final Problem, the readers protested vociferously. Holmes was resurrected and lived for many more adventures. He is well remembered and admired for is condescending arrogance, his superior intellect, his acknowledgement of the greatness of his peers, his generosity to the poor and his long-standing friendship with Dr Watson. What we found excellent was ‘elementary’ for him.

Oscar Wilde

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Another famous author in school textbooks, we would all have read the story of the Happy Prince and the Canterville Ghost. The themes of religion and melancholy recur in his works. Subtle humour is also prevalent. Wilde created a concoction of satire, horror and morals through his stories. The beautiful friendship of a royal statue and a small swallow followed by the disregard for their generosity and efforts was met with stunned silence in the 4th standard classroom.

A victim of imperialism, Wilde was punished for his homosexuality. The father of his lover strongly opposed the relationship. This caused Wilde to create characters who were mostly orphans. Wilde believed that parents oppressed their children and stifled them by imposing their opinions on them.

O. Henry

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William Sydney Porter, known by his pen name O Henry, was an American writer. He was famous for his short stories which had a surprising twist in the end. As a 20th century writer, his works reflected that era. Focusing on the lives of simple people, he brought to life the ordinary incidents with an unexpected style.

He attempted most genres- comedy, adventure, melancholy and poignancy. He was one of my grandfather’s favourite writers. It was at his insistence that I picked up the short stories collection. But on a general poll, he seems to be an under-appreciated writer. Most people don’t like or get this twists.

The Last Leaf was a very moving story of a failed painter who creates a masterpiece which instills hope in a dying woman. Ironically his effort leads to his death. Greatness comes with a heavy price often and it’s never too late to accomplish it.

Anton Chekhov

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Chekov was a Russian physician and author who stated that his wife was medicine while literature was his mistress. Russian literature was dominated by Leo Tolstoy, but Chekov made a name for himself as a satirist. Chekov was one of the early contributors to modernist literature. The most notable characteristics of modernist literature were realism and mundane existence.

R K Narayan is considered the Indian Chekov due to the similarities in their writing styles. They possessed the ability to fuse humour, simplicity and melancholy in a unique manner. The tragedy in his life in the form of his brother’s death and suicides of his friends affected him deeply. He developed the technique of zero-endings or anticlimactic endings. He adopted a slightly cynical attitude towards love and marriage and pivoted around the flaws of human nature.

The Lottery Ticket was a brilliant example of how money is a powerfully evil influence. As children, money did not take center stage in our lives as it does now. It’s a lesson in context, for all of us when we put money over people especially family and friends.

There’s a reason these authors and their works are considered classics. Though the short stories are prescribed for school children, there is an apparent significance of those in life. The subtle messages about the basic values we are thought are often reiterated in a unique and pertinent way.

Puneri Patya – The Quintessential Punekar Character

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Puneri Patya

For a new-comer to the city, Pune and Puneite may appear to be arrogant, rude and not-so-friendly. However, after you spend a considerable time in the historic city that you realize the true character of a Punekar, the Pune citizen.

A specimen Puneite displays some characteristics. For example, a typical Punekar, whether he works as an executive in a private firm or a clerk in a government office, always carries a cloth bag and wears chappals while going to market. Come what may, the afternoon siesta is a must for a Punekar. Outsiders find it strange that almost all shops are closed for some hours in the afternoon since their owners take a nap during that time.

Misal’ and ‘bhaji’, the local spicy snacks, are Punekars’ all-time favourite dishes and you would find every restaurant at the corner serving them. Jaywalking is so rampant in the city that people from outside the city find it difficult to drive vehicles on city’s roads. I think this habit developed during the good old days when Pune roads didn’t have heavy traffic that has become the hallmark of the city today.

Puneri Patya

Once upon a time, there were several ‘wadas’ in Pune, where several families lived happily together. They used to celebrate festivals, share each other’s happiness and sorrow. Today, that Wada culture is no more as those who owned these wadas or had rented accommodation in them have either died or moved into flats in housing societies built on the brink of the city. These wadas have been replaced by commercial complexes or skyscrapers indicating the end of Puneri culture.

People who mostly come from outside the city come across those ubiquitous Puneri Patya or typical signages of Pune, which are known for their bluntness and arrogance while they appear funny to the uninitiated. A typical Punekar thinks and acts as though they have the sole right to educate people in their own ways. A Punekar believes in calling a spade a spade. They want order and discipline around them, which is absent when it comes to traffic though. They don’t want to repeat the same thing to visitors or passers-by. Hence, the Patya culture has been thriving in Pune dishing out advice, warnings and at times, threats to those who have not adopted the city’s culture.

Puneri Patya

Being a Punekar myself, I never found these Patya strange, though I never put any such signage anywhere. However, my friends from other cities always made fun of these signages. It seems pun is part of Pune’s life as these signages indicate. Here are some original samples of Puneri Patya roughly translated into the Queen’s Language:

  • Shila hain jawan kyon ki karti hain vyayam, Munni lagati Zandu Balm kyonki karti nahin vyayam (Shila is young as she exercises daily while Munni rubs Zandu Balm because she never works out).
  • Mana sajjana yethe-tethe na thunkave, durgandhiche karan swatahla vicharave (Do not spit anywhere, ask yourself the reason for dirtiness of your city).
  • Swatahla sushikshit samajati, vahatukiche niyam na palati, dusaryanchya darasamor motari lavati… te hoy padhat murkh (You call yourself ‘educated’ but do not follow traffic rules, you park your motors in front of other people’s homes…educated idiots).
  • Patta vicharayache paise padtil (If you ask for directions to a particular address, you will have to pay).
  • Krupaya payarya chadhtana avaj karu naye, itaranchi zopmod hote (Please don’t stamp while climbing stairs, it disturbs people who are sleeping).
  • Hey karyalay ahe, aat pahanyasarakhe kahi nahi, krupaya aat yeu naye (This is an office and not a museum, please do not enter curiously).

As evident from these messages, a thorough Punekar would never ever give up his right to display signages and educate others!

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